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 How to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering

– Hi, my name’s Nicholas Harris, and I’ve dedicated my life to studying human emotions. Over the last 20 years or so, I’ve helped thousands of people to heal emotional pain safely and naturally with the mind. And in this video today, I would like to share with you how you can free yourself from emotional pain and suffering. So the first step to freeing yourself from emotional pain and suffering is actually to develop motivation. Fundamentally, what you need to do is you need to go from, “Oh, I would like to heal, I would like to free myself from emotional pain and suffering,” to “I need to free myself from emotional pain and suffering.” To go from want to need. This is an incredibly important step because you do not need to accept emotional pain and suffering in your life. Every emotion is created in your mind and can be healed in your mind with understanding and love. There is no need to suffer from unhealed emotions that can affect your life for all time. So to develop this sense of, “I need to free myself from emotional pain and suffering,” it’s really important to become clear about how emotional pain and suffering is actually affecting you. Because emotional pain, it takes our happiness away. I like to say that emotional pain, it’s kind of like the clouds on an English summer’s day. You’re looking up into the sky and all you see is these gray clouds. Behind those clouds is the sun. And when the clouds go away, you realize that the sun was actually there all of the time. This is fundamentally happiness. Happiness is our natural state of being that lies underneath emotional pain. So when you can see how emotional pain is actually taking your happiness away, this will begin to develop this sense of, “I need to heal from this. I deserve to heal from this. It’s time to heal from this.” The next step, I feel, in developing this sense of, “I need to heal from this,” is to actually see how your emotional pain is affecting your world around you, how your emotional pain and suffering are actually affecting your relationship, how your emotional pain and suffering are affecting your children as well, because we all feel each other’s emotions. Human beings are sensitive creatures and we feel each other’s feelings. More than 90% of our communication is actually nonverbal. So when you see how your emotional pain and suffering is taking away from your happiness, when you see how your emotional pain and suffering is affecting your relationships, when you see how your emotional pain and suffering is affecting your children and limiting your life in so many ways, well, this is going to develop that sense of, “This is something I need to do and I’m gonna do what needs to happen in order to free myself on this because I deserve to feel good inside.” The second step to develop, to freeing yourself from emotional pain and suffering is developing emotional intelligence. What this means is you need to learn about your feelings. What did they teach you about your feelings in school? Did they teach you how you can heal painful emotions and how you can create positive feelings in their place? Did they teach you how to understand your needs? Did they teach you how to understand the emotions in other people as well? So in order to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering, you need to develop emotional intelligence. You need to begin by learning about your feelings so you feel equipped with the tools and techniques that you need in order to heal emotional pain. There are many, many paths to doing this. And there’s many sources of information available online. You can go to local spiritual centers, attend workshops, or of course, you could follow the path which I teach, which is just one of the paths out there, in order to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering. Emotional intelligence, one of the most important things invoked and the most important thing that we didn’t learn in school, because your happiness is important. The third step to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering is actually about learning how you can create positive feelings. One aspect of this is meditation. Every system of meditation, and there are so many different systems, but all that you need to do is to choose one of these systems. Basically, when you meditate, you will learn ways that you’re able to focus on the feelings inside of yourself and create a sense of internal space, comfort, relaxation, from which you are able to look at every single emotion that you feel in your life from a place of kindness and love. So it’s very important to learn some way that you can sit, close your eyes, and focus on your feelings and be able to work with them. Meditation is actually one way. And there are many, many forms of meditation. I, myself, of course, teach aspects of guided meditation and clinical hypnotherapy. That’s one way that you can heal those painful emotions inside and feel equipped to be able to look at any emotion which arises in your life as well. When you’re able to meditate, then you’re going to learn one of the two wings of creating positive feelings. Because in order to heal emotional pain, you need to begin by creating feelings of inner safety. In order to heal emotional pain, you need to understand yourself almost as if you imagine that each of us has a manual, like a guidebook. If you came with a guidebook of how to look after yourself, how to understand your feelings, how to balance your life, what kind of decisions, what kinds of structures could you put in play in order to consciously create good feelings inside of yourself, then you’re going to find yourself so much more equipped to be able to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering, because you’ll be able to do that from a place of inner safety. You’ll be able to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering from a place of positive feelings. You’ll be able to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering from a place where you have to safety to look at every single feeling that you feel in your life, from a place of inner safety and love. So positive feelings, very, very important. The next step to free yourself from emotional pain and suffering is actually to change your focus. So often, our attention is focused on the world outside of us. Most unconscious human behavior is actually attempt to enjoy more positive feelings and to experience less negative feelings. I feel attracted to the type of people that I perceive make me feel good inside. I want to distance from the type of people that I perceive make me feel bad inside. I choose all of the ways that I invest my time around how it feels to me, always seeking more experiences of pleasure and trying to limit my experiences of pain. More positive feelings, less negative feelings. So rather than always looking to the world outside of you and perhaps finding yourself trying to change other people so you feel better inside, which is something that I believe we’ve all done in our lives, it’s very, very wise to develop the skills of looking inside of you. What if the emotions that you feel have nothing to do with what’s happening outside of you? What if it is never possible for anybody else to make you feel a painful emotion? What if every single emotion that we feel today is actually a feeling that we felt in the past? What if many of the feelings that we feel are actually the result of unhealed trauma? Change your focus, one of the most important steps of freeing yourself from emotional pain and suffering. Because when you learn to become more aware of how you feel in so many different situations in your life, then you’ll be able to focus on those feelings inside. And then you’ll be able to work with your emotions on an internal level with those tools and techniques which you will learn by having a clear path that you can follow to heal every emotional challenge in your life. Change your focus and apply those tools because when your emotions change, your world will change as well. So my name is Nicholas Harris, and I’m a therapist who teaches people how to heal emotional pain safely and naturally with the mind. If you would like to learn more, please go ahead and like this video, subscribe to my channel, make a comment below. And be sure to check out the suggested video as well because there’s an invitation for you there as well. Thank you very much for watching this video. I hope it’s helpful to you. And have a great day.

How emotional pain changes you

– Emotional pain. We are all going to experience emotional pain in our lives. Life is difficult, difficult things happen. People get ill. We’re going to get ill. We’re going to lose people that we care about. We’re going to experience breakups. Everybody has experienced emotional pain. And, really, there’s two types of emotional pain. There’s emotional pain which is healed, and there’s emotional pain which is not healed. Hi, my name’s Nicholas Harris, and I help people to heal emotional pain, safely and naturally with the mind. And in this video today, I’d like to talk about how emotional pain changes you, because it’s important. So let’s begin by looking at unhealed emotional pain. Unhealed emotional pain, fundamentally, takes our happiness away, because unhealed emotional pain leads to emotional patterns inside of us. It creates anxiety. It can be causes of depression. It can even create health problems as well. Unhealed emotional pain, like for example, traumas. Trauma, by the way, is any event in our life that took away our sense of safety that still holds an emotional charge if you think about it today, which means if you close your eyes and you remember something difficult which happened in the past, then you can notice how it feels in your body. Because if there’s still an emotional charge inside of you, there’s still a feeling of anger or loss or pain or sorrow or anything at all, then that trauma’s not healed, and it’s still affecting you today. Unhealed trauma tends to arise in our relationships. You might notice, if you have a look at the difficult feelings which you feel with the people who are closest to you, because in my opinion the purpose of relationships is actually healing, and every moment of feeling is an opportunity to heal. Then you will discover that a great deal of the emotional pain that you feel in your relationship is actually the same emotions that you felt before. A lot of the unhealed emotions from the past will arise in the present. That which has not been healed in the past will arise in the present, and it will create the future unless you heal it today. So unhealed emotional pain will arise again and again and again inside of us. Unhealed emotional pain, it’s going to limit you in many ways. Unhealed emotional pain, you might discover actually creates a kind of a distance inside of you, because there’s a part of you which perhaps is scared to get hurt again. It might lead to a pattern of overprotection in your relationships. It might lead to a sense of control where you find yourself unconsciously trying to control other people or control situations in the world around you so you can feel safe inside. Because all of us, fundamentally, want to feel safe and accepted and loved. But looking for this sense of change outside of you, looking for this sense of control in other people is not the solution, I’m afraid. So unhealed emotional pain arises in so many ways, and emotional pain will continue to affect your life unless you heal it today. It will limit your career. It will take away your happiness. It will arise in your relationships, and any distance inside of us also creates distance in the world outside of us as well. Because people feel relaxed with people who feel relaxed, and everybody feels safe in the presence of people who accept and love them. So by contrast, healed emotional pain actually develops our sense of personal growth. I believe that emotional pain is the fundamental fuel, actually, for our emotional evolution, because when we’ve gone through something difficult in our life, when we’ve processed those feelings, when we’ve gone through all of the stages of healing, when we’ve forgiven the people who we felt wronged us in the past, when we’ve let go of all of that then what arises is a sense of wisdom, a sense of empathy towards other people who are experiencing the same types of emotions, and also a deeper sense of compassion as well. When you’ve been through difficult times in your life and when you’ve healed from that emotional pain, you are going to find that you have a much deeper sense of inner peace, a sense of connection with yourself and the world around you. So all of us can heal emotional pain. Every emotion is created in the mind and can be healed with safety and love and understanding when you know how. The good news is that there is a path that you can follow in order to heal emotional pain. If you would like to know more about my philosophy and more about my path, then please go ahead and subscribe to my YouTube channel, make a comment below, and be sure to check out the suggested video as well, because there’s an invitation for you there to a free masterclass which is going to teach you so much more. Thank you very much for watching this video today. My name is Nicholas Harris, and I wish you a great day.

How emotional intelligence impacts your life

– If you want to positively affect everything in your life, then the first thing that you need to do is to develop emotional intelligence. Hi, my name’s Nicholas Harris and I’m a therapist who helps people to heal emotional pain safely and naturally with their minds. In my opinion, emotional education is the most important thing that we didn’t learn in school, because I believe that there is nothing more important than happiness. And in order to enjoy the happiness that we all deserve, we need to heal emotional pain. Our world is actually a reflection of our emotion. What this means is when your emotions change, then your world is going to change as well. Have you ever noticed that people feel relaxed with you when you feel relaxed inside, that people feel confident with you when you feel confident, maybe that people feel attracted to you when you’re in love with somebody? The world is a reflection of our emotion. So when we are able to develop emotional intelligence, we’re quite literally able to have a sense of control for absolutely everything in our lives. So emotional intelligence impacts our life in so many ways. The most important way of course is happiness, because when you have emotional intelligence, you’re going to have the tools and the skills that you need in order to process difficult feelings in order to heal emotional pain and create positive feelings in their place. When you have emotional intelligence, you’re going to understand your needs, you’re going to have a clearer sense of who you are as a person who’s actually a complicated creature that’s composed of many different parts with many different needs. When you have emotional intelligence, you will be able to consciously create good feelings inside. You will be able to connect to yourself emotionally and you’re also going to be able to connect to other people emotionally as well. Emotional intelligence impacts our lives in so many ways, because we need to understand our feelings in order to live happy, balanced, and fulfilled lives. Emotional intelligence is going to help you to feel stronger. You’re going to become emotionally stronger, more resilient. You’re going to be able to process difficult situations in your life as you discover how you can let go of painful feelings. Emotional intelligence is going to impact your health. You’re going to age slower as you feel more relaxed inside of yourself. You’re also going to notice that any ailments which you have, any physical pains, even any health conditions are going to become less because the world is a reflection of your emotion. As a therapist, I know that no matter what sources of stress people have in their life, unresolved stress magnifies the intensity of the symptoms that we experience, whether they’re physical pains, whether they’re illnesses, anything at all. So emotional intelligence impacts our lives in so many ways. And really, at the core of all of this is our relationships, because as we develop emotional intelligence, we basically develop a deeper sense of relationship with ourselves. And as we develop a deeper sense of relationship with ourselves, something that I like to call the art of inner relationship, you are going to enjoy much better relationships with other people as well. Because of course, when you can connect to yourself emotionally, when you understand your emotions, you are going to be able to connect to other people so much better as well. With emotional intelligence, you will be able to give yourself the love and the acceptance that we all deserve. And when you’re able to love and accept yourself completely, even to be able to listen to those difficult feelings, even to be able to leave space for our weaknesses and talk to ourselves in a kinder and loving way, then you’re going to be able to love and accept other people so much better as well. So emotional intelligence impacts our lives in so many ways. It leads to a complete different sense of perspective, because as your emotional intelligence evolves, you’re going to look at absolutely everything that happens in your life in a different way. You’re going to move from a space of “Why is this happening to me?” to “How is this happening for me?” From reacting to what happens in our life towards being able to respond, to look for the meaning as you understand that everything that happens in our life is another opportunity to learn and grow, and understand more about love. So emotional intelligence impacts our lives in so many ways, helping us to feel happier, helping us to feel stronger, helping us to enjoy positive relationships with ourselves and other people too, changing our perspective of the world, and actually giving ourselves a new sense of inner control. Because as your emotions change, your world will change as well. Our emotions are like a magnet. So it’s really important to develop emotional intelligence. It’s one of the most fundamental skills in life. And it’s really what we should have learned in school. So my name’s Nicholas Harris and I’m a therapist who helps people to heal emotional pain safely and naturally with the mind. If you would like to develop emotional intelligence and to understand so much more about the power of your mind, then please go ahead and subscribe to my YouTube channel. Maybe make a comment below, I’d love to hear from you, and please check out the suggested video because there’s an invitation there to a free web class as well for you. Thank you very much for watching this video today. I hope it’s helpful to you and I wish you a great day.

How to develop high emotional intelligence

– Hi, my name’s Nicholas Harris and I’m a therapist who helps people to heal emotional pain safely and naturally in the mind. In this video today, I would like to tell you about how you can develop high emotional intelligence, because developing high emotional intelligence is going to help your life in many ways. So the first step to developing high emotional intelligence is actually intention, because intention is the driving force behind all of our actions. When you have a clear intention, that’s going to really help you to have the motivation to follow the path that you need in order to develop high emotional intelligence. So really, the first thing to develop this sense of motivation is to know exactly how developing high emotional intelligence is going to help you. When you develop high emotional intelligence, you’re going to discover that you understand yourself so much more and you understand other people, too. When you develop high emotional intelligence, you’re going to notice that you are able to see the feelings inside other people. What this means is if you see somebody behaving in a bit of a strange way, you’re going to begin to relate to how their behavior is actually caused by how they’re feeling inside. When you develop high emotional intelligence, you’re going to be able to have a greater sense of compassion for yourself and a greater sense of compassion for other people, too. And of course, all of this is going to increase your relationship with yourself, because when you have high emotional intelligence, you’re going to relate to all of your feelings in a different way, and that’s going to help all of your relationships with everybody else in your life as well, because the world is a reflection of our emotion. So this is the first step, intention. Why do you want to develop high emotional intelligence? How is it going to help you in your life when you develop high emotional intelligence? How is this going to add to your happiness and also all of the happiness of the people you care about? Because most people are happy with people who are calm, and centered, and relaxed, who understand their emotions, and who are able to give them the acceptance to feel safe to simply be themselves, to feel loved. So the first step, intention. The second step to developing high emotional intelligence is study. And by this, really, ultimately, you’ll be able to find a path that resonates with you. I think a very good first step is to explore many different paths, perhaps to read different books, different books on self-help, perhaps to follow different teachers on YouTube, perhaps to have a look at what’s happening in your local city in terms of talks and workshops. You might have a look at one of the local spiritual centers and things like this. You want to really learn from different people about different ways that you can develop high emotional intelligence, and you want to find a path that feels right to you. You want to find somebody that you resonate with, who you can basically trust to help you on your path to developing high emotional intelligence. Because this step study, it’s really about knowledge. When you have knowledge, when you have the knowledge to be able to understand your feelings, when you have the knowledge to be able to heal emotional pain and create positive emotions in their place, when you have the knowledge to be able to understand other people’s feelings as well, the second step is basically to bring this knowledge into your experience, or in other ways, to bring what you understand in your mind into your heart. So really one of the best ways to do this is to meditate. I can’t emphasize this enough. Because meditation will help you to create a much deeper sense of connection with yourself. Meditation will quite naturally develop your own awareness of your emotions. Meditation will help you to create positive feelings inside of yourself. And meditation will help you to develop your sense of awareness in so many ways. Basically to create the space in your mind, a greater space in your mind where you are able to hold the entire contents of your emotional life, because when you do that, you’re going to develop a voice of inner confidence, a voice of inner wisdom. You’re actually going to learn how to talk to yourself in new ways from a space of inner safety and trust. So there are many ways to learn meditation. There are various apps on the phone these days, although those things are really more guided meditations. Their meditations themselves is actually quite different. I recommend having a look at local classes which are happening in your area, or even to find a meditation retreat, because this is really a very, very valuable thing to do. If you’re able to go away on a retreat and actually study with a teacher for perhaps five days for a first retreat, or for 10 days for a second retreat, you’re able to develop a relationship to a teacher and to actually learn a practice that you can take away and follow at home. It’s important to understand that if you meditate for five minutes a day, that is infinitely better than meditating for zero minutes a day. You don’t need to meditate for hours a day in order to develop high emotional intelligence. Just a couple of minutes is just fine. And any types of tools and techniques that you develop as part of your practice and part of your awareness are going to help you very much as well. So this is the third step to developing high emotional intelligence, meditation. The fourth step really can come as a result of the second step and the third step, because the fourth step is community. Somebody once said that we’re the average of the five people that we spend the most time with. So as you seek to develop high emotional intelligence, as you study, as you follow a path that you can trust, as you meditate, as you learn tools and techniques, it’s extremely helpful to surround yourself with some people who are doing the same thing. You’re gonna notice that as you develop higher emotional intelligence, your priorities are going to begin to shift. You’re going to find yourself less interested in having small talk with people, perhaps, and more interested in having deeper and more meaningful conversations. So when you go to workshops, when you go to meditation classes, when you perhaps go to a yoga class, when you get involved in the things which are happening in your local community, you’re going to quite naturally begin to draw a different type of person to you. You’re going to begin to build a spiritual community, if you like. In Buddhism, actually, there’s three wings, if you like, of Buddhism. There’s the Buddha, there’s the Dharma, and the Sangha. What this means is the Buddha is an authentic teacher who has one authentic path which people can follow. The Buddha is somebody who’s realized, if you like. The Dharma is the actual teachings that the realized teacher has provided that people can follow, and the Dharma is the community of people who are following those teachings. It’s understood in Buddhism that these three things together are extremely important, because on your path to developing high emotional intelligence, you basically want to keep going. It can be quite lonely if you are on these types of paths but you have nobody else to talk about these matters with. So it’s really important to develop a sense of community and to surround yourself with like-minded people. The fifth step to developing high emotional intelligence, and the final step I’ll talk about today, is practice. What this means is to use every single situation in your life as an opportunity to practice, to use every single situation in your life as a chance to learn and grow. There are many ways to practice, of course. I think it’s very helpful to have a process where, at the end of the day, you might just close your eyes and just think about everything which happened in the day. You might consider moments where you felt calm and connected. You might look at moments where perhaps you felt overwhelmed or angry. You might consider moments where other people were emotionally charged inside of yourself. And even in times where perhaps you reacted rather than responded to something that’s happening in your life, to really have a look at that and to ask yourself, “Well, what did that situation have to teach me?” If I had higher emotional intelligence, if I had a calmer mind, if I had more space inside, if I could go back and if I could be in that situation again, if I could have another chance to talk to that person, well, how might I actually behave differently? And actually imagine yourself behaving in that different way in your mind, because when we rehearse things inside, the subconscious mind actually does not know the difference between real or imagine. So when you rehearse things, what you can imagine, you can achieve. So use every single thing in your life as practice. Consider situations, perhaps, where you are in emotional pain, where you’re struggling, where you don’t know what to do, where you find yourself feeling trapped, or overwhelmed, or anxious, or depressed, and simply take a moment to breathe into your feelings and to see if you can open, to see if you can expand to the challenges in the present moment of your life and softly to ask yourself, “What is the opportunity here? What can I learn from this situation? How can I embrace every single challenge in my life? And when I’ve integrated that learning, well, how is that gonna help me inside and how is that gonna help me to care for the people that I care about as well?” So these are some steps which I’d like you to consider on your journey to developing high emotional intelligence. It’s an exciting journey that’s going to change your life in many ways, because when your emotions change, your world changes as well. So thank you very much for watching this video today. I hope these steps are helpful to you. My name’s Nicholas Harris, and if you would like to learn how to heal emotional pain safely and naturally with your mind, then please go ahead and subscribe to my channel. Maybe make a comment below. I’d love to hear from you. And check out the suggested video because there’s an invitation for there as well. Have a great day.

Relaxation (Free Hypnotherapy)

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For best results – turn off distractions, sit up comfortably and close your eyes. This will lead you into a relaxing state of hypnosis.

You will remain in complete control and can wake yourself up at any time.

And every time you listen to this, you will wake up feeling even better inside.

Healed

Please enjoy this free hypnotherapy process “Healed”.

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You will remain in complete control and can wake yourself up at any time.

And every time you listen to this, you will wake up feeling even better inside.

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