The importance of feeling in control

As a therapist that it’s really important to feel in control, because feeling in control is fundamentally about feeling safe, feeling in control of your life.

So the real question is, where do you look for the sense of control?

Do you look for the sense of control in the world outside of you? Or do you look for the sense of control in the world inside of you?

If you look for a sense of control in the world outside of you, then you’re fundamentally gonna be looking for certain conditions to happen in your life so you can feel good inside.

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If you look for a sense of control in the world outside of you, you might even find yourself trying to control other people, trying to change their behaviours, so that they might behave towards you in the way that you think is going to make you feel good inside. And you might be wrong, or you might be right.

For me personally, to have a real sense of control in my life, is to have a sense control inside. Because to really feel in control is to feel in control of how you think, to feel in control of how you feel, and also to feel in control of how you behave.

Because if you’re in control of how you think, and in control of how you feel, and in control of how you behave, that no matter what’s happening in your world, you’re going to be able to respond rather than to react to life. And everything’s going to go so much better for you.

People feel relaxed with people who feel relaxed inside. People feel anxious with people who feel anxious inside.

So if you can learn to focus your sense of control from the world outside of you, to the world inside of you, well, then you’re really going to begin to learn safety, and to feel empowered and in control of your entire life.

I know that for many people the problem is that they feel out of control, because they feel overwhelmed by their emotion. People feel anxious, and then they feel anxious about feeling anxious, and the anxiety becomes bigger. People feel depressed, and they feel depressed about becoming depressed. And then the depression becomes bigger, and so on and so forth.

Because emotion is fundamentally energy in motion. No matter what you’re feeling, if you’re able to take your attention to that feeling, and to learn to feel safe, to actually listen to what your emotions are communicating, because all of your emotions are fundamentally communicating your needs. You’re gonna find that it’s actually a sense of power behind every single emotion.

If when there’s a really, really strong emotion that arises, if you have real tools and techniques to be able to work with that emotion. What that means is to listen to it, to process it, to breathe with it, to allow the emotion to communicate.

There are so many practical, emotional tools for learning how to work with your emotions. Then what you’re going to discover is that emotion itself is gonna seem less scary to you.

You’re going to move from a pattern of resisting your own feelings, to a pattern of accepting your own feelings.

And you’re gonna discover that all of your emotions are actually a map towards inner alignment.

So I would like to invite you today to learn about your emotions. I would like to invite you today to discover a new relationship between thinking and feeling, and feeling and thinking.

So if you haven’t already, please have a look at the suggested video, because I would like to invite you to my completely free web class, How to Heal Depression and Overcome Anxiety, without spending thousands of dollars and years of your life in therapy.

You can simply click on the suggested video, which is displayed somewhere on the screen here, and you can sign up for the free web class. It’s gonna teach you the entire path that I use to help my clients to heal emotional pain.

So just go ahead and click on that video above to learn about the web class. And of course, if this video helped you then please share, please subscribe, and please check out my other videos which are going to teach you many practical tools for mastering your life.

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About Nicholas Harris

Nicholas Harris is a Full Member of the British Society of Clinical Hypnosis and an 8th Generation Reiki Master / Teacher.

Over the last 16 years, he has helped thousands of clients with the art of personal change. The focus of Nick’s work is the use of consciousness for healing. Nick teaches “The Path of Inner Relationship”, a fresh way to heal negative emotion.

Nick views life as a reflection of the mind and challenges as opportunities for learning and growth. He helps his clients find happiness by mastering emotion.

Working internationally, Nick is the owner of the Chiang Mai Wellness Centre and consults for Chiva Som, a world-class healing resort in southern Thailand.

Nick currently works for The Chiang Mai Wellness Centre. You can read client reviews of this work here.

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