And in this video today, I’d like to talk about how emotional pain changes you, because it’s important. So let’s begin by looking at unhealed emotional pain. Unhealed emotional pain, fundamentally, takes our happiness away, because unhealed emotional pain leads to emotional patterns inside of us.
It creates anxiety. It can be causes of depression. It can even create health problems as well. Unhealed emotional pain, like for example, traumas. Trauma, by the way, is any event in our life that took away our sense of safety that still holds an emotional charge if you think about it today, which means if you close your eyes and you remember something difficult which happened in the past, then you can notice how it feels in your body.
Because if there’s still an emotional charge inside of you, there’s still a feeling of anger or loss or pain or sorrow or anything at all, then that trauma’s not healed, and it’s still affecting you today. Unhealed trauma tends to arise in our relationships. You might notice, if you have a look at the difficult feelings which you feel with the people who are closest to you, because in my opinion the purpose of relationships is actually healing, and every moment of feeling is an opportunity to heal. Then you will discover that a great deal of the emotional pain that you feel in your relationship is actually the same emotions that you felt before.
A lot of the unhealed emotions from the past will arise in the present. That which has not been healed in the past will arise in the present, and it will create the future unless you heal it today. So unhealed emotional pain will arise again and again and again inside of us. Unhealed emotional pain, it’s going to limit you in many ways. Unhealed emotional pain, you might discover actually creates a kind of a distance inside of you, because there’s a part of you which perhaps is scared to get hurt again. It might lead to a pattern of overprotection in your relationships.
It might lead to a sense of control where you find yourself unconsciously trying to control other people or control situations in the world around you so you can feel safe inside. Because all of us, fundamentally, want to feel safe and accepted and loved. But looking for this sense of change outside of you, looking for this sense of control in other people is not the solution, I’m afraid.
So unhealed emotional pain arises in so many ways, and emotional pain will continue to affect your life unless you heal it today. It will limit your career. It will take away your happiness. It will arise in your relationships, and any distance inside of us also creates distance in the world outside of us as well. Because people feel relaxed with people who feel relaxed, and everybody feels safe in the presence of people who accept and love them.
So by contrast, healed emotional pain actually develops our sense of personal growth. I believe that emotional pain is the fundamental fuel, actually, for our emotional evolution, because when we’ve gone through something difficult in our life, when we’ve processed those feelings, when we’ve gone through all of the stages of healing, when we’ve forgiven the people who we felt wronged us in the past, when we’ve let go of all of that then what arises is a sense of wisdom, a sense of empathy towards other people who are experiencing the same types of emotions, and also a deeper sense of compassion as well. When you’ve been through difficult times in your life and when you’ve healed from that emotional pain, you are going to find that you have a much deeper sense of inner peace, a sense of connection with yourself and the world around you. So all of us can heal emotional pain. Every emotion is created in the mind and can be healed with safety and love and understanding when you know how.
The good news is that there is a path that you can follow in order to heal emotional pain. If you would like to know more about my philosophy and more about my path, then please go ahead and subscribe to my YouTube channel, make a comment below, and be sure to check out the suggested video as well, because there’s an invitation for you there to a free masterclass which is going to teach you so much more. Thank you very much for watching this video today.
My name is Nicholas Harris, and I wish you a great day.